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Do you ever feel the urge to do a complete detox!? 

A total mind/body cleanse. 

People that love you start saying, 

“Your energy and presence is different..in a good way”

Detoxing off prescribed meds too. 

Our bodies are always trying to regulate themselves. Do you know, 

About the sexual behavior impacts you might encounter.. I know. It’s another step. 

“I stopped taking my medication for ADHD because I wanted to do a complete mind/body cleanse. I feel so much better. My partner now says I’m not as sexual, but I actually feel more present.

What should we do?”

You experiencing a sense of connection and clarity with yourself is everything!

These ADHD meds though, changing can be a slippery slope.

Happy for you, that you’re feeling better. 

Stopping the use of ADHD medication can be unpredictable! It’s possible to experience:

• Hyposexuality

• Inability to orgasm

• Hypersensitivity

• Hyperactivity

 Once you come down, you never know where you may land. Adjusting to a new way of living is normal. Most times this includes relationships. 

 What’s great is that you are communicating your positive, prosocial changes with your partner. Even if your partner doesn’t see the same picture, stay focused.

My buddy Devon was experiencing difficulties focusing. He was all over the place. So, he decided that he had to get some help.

Turned out he had ADHD and never knew it. He was placed on medication and for a moment, he felt he was back in the game. Life was good!

Devon soon realized he wasn’t too happy with how he felt when the magic feeling faded.

He got to the point where he decided that the lows weren’t worth the highs. So, he decided to ease back a bit.

His partner noticed a change in their sex life. And she created an atmosphere to bring it up.

1. You want to ensure when bringing up “sensitive” topics you’re aware of your

   1. Tone → How you say and bring up a conversation matters. 

   2. Timing → Assess, ensure timing is good for the both of you. 

   3. Turf → Be thoughtful, is the location you’re talking in a comfy environment?
      

Her honesty felt good to him, he wanted to be honest too. But his vantage point was much different from hers.

Devon felt great coming off the medication. Life had a different vibe, and he felt authentic.

Painting the picture here:

They talked about her sexual needs, while prioritizing and supporting his mental health… sensitive nature in this chapter of a relationship. 

After all, sex is only one area of pleasure. There’s multiple types of pleasure.

Devon felt pleasure in so many different ways and wanted to share these experiences with his partner.

None of the areas of pleasure he felt were consistent when he was on medication.

He felt focused, but he wasn’t connected with his authentic self.

After they understood the effects of stopping his use of medication. Not only the sexual pieces. She understood what was best for him. Supporting him.

They continued to hold open and honest conversations.

They supported each other.

Life was good, for them! 

His partner felt validated when Devon appreciated her understanding and voiced it.

She also felt comfortable voicing her needs. Sometimes she gave boundaries that he respected. 

It’s good for overall wellness to do a complete mind/body cleanse.

It’s also empowering to express how wonderful, and present you feel for your partner. 

Here is something you can do!

Consider the following to help bring more clarity to your situation:

• Define what is meant by “not as sexual”. It’s not the same for everyone…

• Is it lower libido, or are you just being yourself without medication?

• Talk to your partner about taking responsibility for their own pleasure.

• Find nonsexual activities that facilitate connectedness. 

Continuing to have open and honest conversations with your partner adds another layer of trust and commitment.

Inching deeper into intimacy. So, keep going.

Self-care is the driver of long-lasting joy, gratitude, and pleasure. 

That’s not something we should sacrifice for anyone. 

However, a great relationship is kept flourishing by huddling up and drawing up a game plan that meets both of your needs. 

What do you feel about tonight’s note?

Don’t leave me on seen, reply. Would love your feedback.