Emotional Management Needed!

Fam, today we’re talking balancing emotions + boundaries in a world where swiping right is the norm! We’re teaching you how.

The Pew Research Center completed a study finding that 92% of American adults prefer to date people who've been to therapy. 

The obvious question, how many Americans have gone or seek therapy… only 30%! The math isn’t mathing. 

Dare you to seek guidance and counsel. If the top companies have a board of directors, why don’t you? 

Dear Feeling Seen,

How do I maintain healthy emotional management and boundaries in my relationships?

Your Friend, Loving Me Feels Good!

Dear Loving Me Feels Good,

Boundaries are our front line of defense, not to block rather protect. We thrive in being a part of your army to give you the tools needed. 

You know our feelings construct the world around us. Daydream for a second…

Do you smile thinking about the emotion you get when someone says yes to a date or compliments you? Giving you princess or prince treatment 👑. 

Do you frown thinking about the emotion you get when waves come crashing down and wipe you out? Rejection. The wrinkles. Left from a past relationship.

Rejection can send us spiraling down a dark hole. 

Unhealthy relationships have a way of turning us into empty shells. Stripping away our vitality and sense of self.

Throwing our empty shell away like pistachios.

They’re never fun, we know you have stories.. 

Note: Clarity comes after anger settles. Good and bad emotions can take us for a ride. Having a mind and system for clarity, enriches our livelihood.  

A good relationship with others starts with a good relationship with us!

Rejection, hurts.

Boundaries are annoying. 

Yet we unconsciously respect them. 

At least more than running over someone. 

Emotions can hijack your attention away from other important areas of your life. Choose wisely. How ⬇️

Emotional Intelligence Strategies 

• 21 or more deep breathes put you back in control and at ease

• Feel the emotion. Choose how to act during thought processing 

• Where is the tension exactly in your body? Massage that tension  

• Gratitude journals are bs you feel? 

  • It’s a listening exercise. 

  • Receive, don't Criticize. 

• Write down how you feel and observe yourself in third-person without obsessing 

• As we release anger, we gain clarity

• Move. Dancing,  yoga, pilates you name it. Move

• Put your oxygen mask on first, before helping others

• Talk with encouragement, love and kindness to yourself 

  • Always. Gently & Slowly 

• Take us up on our dare. Talk to a professional listener. 

Boundaries are not only about protecting us from other people. They protect us. From us. A blueprint showing others how to treat us. 

Boundaries are the cool ice in your deep cup of emotions. They keep things cool, not fiery emotional. 

How to set boundaries, you ask? Here’ ya go! 

Have no healthy boundaries? Your self-love sanctuary is in threat!  

Setting healthy boundaries that protect you and your relationships:

• Encourage your partner to maintain a sense of self by chasing their own dreams

• Address your concerns 

  • Caress your feelings 

  • Finesse past negative thought issues 

• Be empowered.  Honor your commitments to self. Respect what soothes you 

• Be clear about what is an “US” thing and what is an “I” thing in relationships

• Don’t take shit from other people, especially not from yourself!

For a deeper dive into emotional management and setting boundaries in relationships:

Read this article by Feeling Seen’s family friend Dr. Clarissa Francis.

Feeling Seen aims to address the mental health epidemic by helping 1 million people feel comfortable and safe in their bodies.

Having the ability to be intimate, not only with others, but with yourself!

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