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Fate is the shadow to your attention ✨ (Dec 14)

Fate is the shadow to your attention ✨ (Dec 14)

Fate is the shadow to your attention ✨

December 14, 2023

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Depending on how you want to look at your life some may say you followed the rules..

Let’s be curious, as we explore our q & a today. Curiosity and moving forward always ends with a story worth sharing.

EXPERT INSIGHT

Dear Feeling Seen,

Here’s one for you…I’m a 45 married woman to a man. We have three kids. I am an erotic author and recently I’ve begun to feel somewhat of a whisper inside of me that’s awfully disruptive and I’d like some input on this. Not for a solution but simple curiosity on how common it is. Generally speaking, in my research, I’ve recently started to find that there is a faint but ever-present curiosity as to what it would feel like to experience an intimate experience with another woman. And go….

Your Friend Erotic Pen

📍Groton

Dear Erotic Pen,

As a writer who enjoys erotic adventures, your wandering mind is not a surprise. What creative genius doesn’t love a good tease? The battle of nature and nurture within you is a universal playground.

The whispers of who we long to be

Mingled with the influences of the world around us

Paint a captivating picture of who we could become

How's this resonate for you, “Fate is the shadow to your attention?”

Curiosity can open doors to new dimensions of self. It can also trap us inside our wildest fantasies.

What you're feeling is “all natural” if you will. You seem to have your curiosity tamed and priorities in check, beautiful to hear.

My friend from college hit me up with a similar situation recently. She is also a professional woman but with two kids. She adores her husband and when they have sex, it's good. Though,

she cannot stop thinking about her lady friend from her wellness studio.

She never made a play. Still, the possibility of the unknown was distracting. So she joined a community of women who share the same erotic tastes.

She soon felt erotic heat and a sense of belonging from what she learned. Research shows nearly 60% of women think about sex with other women.

These numbers are flexible, and flexibility is always a good thing. There is a lot of evidence that suggests women are more sexually fluid. This means women are more likely to adapt to sexual diversity than men.

EXPLORE YOUR SENSUALITY

Thinking about the pleasure of your interest is one thing. Being honest about how you feel is another and a great way to help blunt your curiosity.

“I read Dr. Lisa Diamond’s Sexual Fluidity: Understanding Women’s Love and Desire. Here I started to find some context for my lived experience. In Dr. Diamond’s research I heard echoes of my own reality—attracted to women and one particular, amazing man.” - Meghan Decker

I want to savor them and devour you type of vibe.

RELATIONSHIP TIPS

For those wanting the spark especially in this time of the year:

Continue dating each other. Just because you "have" each other does not mean the relationship becomes complacent. The chase goes on!
Remember that as people change over the years, so do relationships, or they should. It's called the evolution of the relationship.
Don't wait until special occasions to acknowledge your significant other. Make sure they know how important they are in your life on other days of the year too.
Instead of spending a lot of money on anniversaries, come up with a letter/note on the reason you still want to be in the relationship. These can even be vows you renew every year.
Make sure that the relationship itself is a safe space for disagreements and sharing of feelings.
When having conflicts, step outside of yourself and remember the intent of the other person is usually not a bad intent. Extend some grace for an emotionally charged situation.
Always clarify what has been said to prevent any misunderstandings. This is a part of active listening.
Listen to receive, not to respond. This is also a part of active listening.
View the problems in the relationship as a "we" problem so that you can have the mindset of a team tackling a problem. The relationship is a partnership.
Have fun with each other. Laugh. Be silly. Humor is very important.
Be sure to have rituals as a couple to help maintain a connection with each other.

Share your perspectives, concerns, or boldest bedroom tales. Let's inspire one another. Submit below! ◡̈

Submit your story and question HERE!

CULTURAL DIVERSITY

In Barcelona, Spain, Cat yoga is an integrated practice of body and mind and establishing connection. Cat yoga studios offer you a chance to unwind and connect with furry little friends.

Relax the nervous system
Calm the mind
Restore balance
Stimulate feel good hormone production

This practice can be done with other animals as well such as dogs and goats.

Submit your story and question HERE!

Note: This content is only for informational and educational purposes and should not be considered therapy or any form of treatment. We cannot respond to personal requests for advice over the internet.

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Today's cheeky content was written by: Erin Alexander, Dr. Hall, Mike Johnson

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