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Feeling Guilty Doing Your Self-Care (June 29)
Guilt-Free Self-Care: Embrace Bliss 😀
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Are you playing a little shame game or feeling guilty about treating yourself to some self-love? Don’t worry, you are not alone. A recent study by Kelton Global found that 1-in-3 moms feel guilty about taking care of themselves. While 3 in 5 people feel overwhelmed with everything going on in life.
Sex hasn’t always been associated with sin and guilt. Pre-Christian religions often regarded sex as a celebration and as a form of worship. Sex was seen as mirroring the sensual power of the Gods. Pick up a copy of the Kama Sutra ◡̈
Dear Feeling Seen,
What I want more of… Talks on how to love yourself first without feeling guilty.
Sincerely,
Can I be guilt free
Many people feel guilty about taking care of themselves because they don’t feel deserving of self-love, or they feel bad for putting themselves first.
Try this on and tell me your thoughts, we don’t feel guilty about claiming our birth right to pleasure! Our right to love ourselves, fully!
HONEY TRAP
This reminds me of one of my friends who was always posting on IG about how busy their life was. They would share about their entire day of selfless heroic acts that left their self-care battery on low day after day. Finally, enough was enough! She needed help ASAP!
She felt so guilty whenever she did anything for herself, but she thought to herself, if not me then who? Good question. After all, who knows how to love you better than you.
She stayed up all night surfing the internet for self-love hacks. The amount of chatter was stressful! So, I suggested this self-love tip, which is something we all do here at Feeling Seen.
SELF-LOVE REFLECTION
Connect with Yourself – Take a sheet of paper and write down what are your feeling and what are you needing. What have you been going through? Be honest with yourself but gentle. Take some time to sit with how you feel.
Reflect & Record – Write down five times you were really happy. Dish the deets!
Where were you? What did you do? How did you feel?
Observing Self - Observe what was responsible for your happiness. On a scale of 1 to 10 what would you rate your level of happiness? Think about what will make it a 10 next time. This can be as simple as remembering to charge your phone before going out to things much more nuanced if that’s your style 😎
Compare - What you have done to make other people happy in the past month – Are you doing WAAAAAY more for others than yourself?
Bottom line – Loving yourself SHOULD NOT feel guilty, and we are here to help.
Below are some guilt-free self-love tips. Follow these tips to feel more self-love without the guilt.
GUILT-FREE SELF-LOVE TIPS
Challenge your negative thoughts. When you have negative thoughts about yourself, challenge them. Are you really being selfish or does someone want you to do what is best for them?
Be kind to yourself. Treat yourself with the same kindness and compassion that you give to others. Remember, you can’t always be there for others, and they can’t always be there for you.
Do things that make you happy. Make time for activities that make you happy and fulfilled. This is about you, so think about what you want. Go wild or simply take some time for yourself to relax and recharge.
Set boundaries. It is important to set boundaries with others so that you can protect your time and energy. This means saying no to requests that are not in your best interest and not feeling guilty about it.
Practice mindfulness. Mindfulness is the practice of paying attention to the present moment without judgment. Be mindful of how you feel when you neglect yourself. This can help you to develop a more compassionate and accepting view of yourself.
Journal. Journaling can be a great way to explore your thoughts and feelings about yourself. When you write about your experiences, you can see if you are treating yourself with the same quality of love you give to others.
Spend time in nature. Nature has a way of calming and grounding us. When you spend time in nature, you can reconnect with yourself and experience the joy of your own company. This can help you to feel more at peace with yourself and the world around you.
Connect with others. Having strong relationships with others can provide us with love, support, and acceptance. But connecting with others does not mean you must do what they want, rather you are sharing a moment of joy together.
Note: This content is only for informational and educational purposes and should not be considered therapy or any form of treatment. We cannot respond to personal requests for advice over the internet.
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