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✈️ Flight, Love, ❤️ and Insecurities 💔 (Nov 9)
✈️ Flights, Love, & Insecurities ❤️💔
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Flying from NY to Utah felt like stepping into a canvas of breathtaking views. The fall scenery outside my window seat paints stories. Still, I’ve yet to cross the mile-high club adventures.
✈️🍁 Are you ready for a journey beyond the clouds?
EXPERT INSIGHT
Dear Feeling Seen,
“I met this guy on a flight, talked to him over the phone for two months, and we finally met in person. He was super overjoyed to see me and the first thing he said was "you're tall." My first reaction was wow! Ok. But in the next 24 hours I realized that he was very insecure and had major low self-esteem issues. He constantly asked what I see in him, and my thoughts went totally blank. Visually he was sweating, short of breath and drooling as if I was his next meal. The hairs on the back of my neck stood up. How do I redirect and deflect without sending him back into a deep depression?”
Your Friend Sylvester & Tweety📍San Antonio
Hey Sylvester & Tweety,
Oh you’re catching flights & they’re catching feelings! We see you!
Kudos on your self-awareness. Dealing with someone's insecurities demands a delicate approach. We don’t want any choppiness on this flight so let's chart a course for a graceful exit. Without causing emotional turbulence.
It Begins with Keeping It Real
Honoring our priority of emotional capacity, demands that we keep it real. Especially as it pertains to ourselves.
If you sense something is off, the best thing for you to do is remove yourself.
Swiping his drool with your safety airplane manual in your nightmare 🤢. Or was it his panting or sweat he lead with. The “what do you see in me” line?
Whatever it was that made the hairs on the back of your neck stand up, your gut feelings - listen to that.
You've got a friend in us, steering you to honor your emotional well-being, to keep it real.
The Truth: Their Personal Growth, Is Their Responsibility
It's not your role to fix someone's self-esteem shortcomings. We're too busy focusing on holiday parties.
Professionals are there to help with that. Each person has a personal growth journey that is theirs to navigate from the cards they're dealt.
If your choice is to be of service in aiding them, beautiful. That's not what we're here doing today. He'll be fine, but you deserve a gift this year!
Taking Control of Your Happiness: The Next Chapter
You + dating = an enjoyable adventure. A path to experiencing safety, joy, and pleasure. Staying in a situation that no longer serves you doesn't benefit anyone. Find joy.
On another note, we can’t even imagine how you're feeling after talking on the phone for two months! With his first words being, “you’re tall” 🥴.
Your height is alluring, just not the words you wanted to hear.
Tapping into Your Senses: The Wisdom Within
Your intuition, or that “gut” feeling is your sixth sense. The TLDR version for your next flight.
If you’re flying a short distance here’s the in-flight entertainment:
Your brain is sending signals through your body. There is a reason that the hairs on the back of your neck stood tall. Your nervous system is screaming to you, “This is not safe. Let’s go.”
Ignoring your gut feeling doesn't usually end well. Research supports the wisdom of trusting your intuition. Us humans have a remarkable ability to integrate value intuitively.
Cutting Your Losses: The Way Forward
Time has come to redirect & deflect. You might say,
"It's been new exploring, but I don't have the time needed for a healthy relationship, the way I would want. It's fair that you find someone who's more available. Please respect my boundaries and I wish you the best."
Be clear in your message, as mixed signals can complicate matters both on and offline.
You being honest to him may make him like you even more. We want to stress that it's good to be straightforward. Keep your message simple, so things don't get too confusing. Until next week.
Our community is growing! We’d love for you to share with us!
All your experiences, concerns or your most adventurous bedroom escapades. Let's inspire each other. Submit below ◡̈
CULTURAL DIVERSITY: The Maca Root Experience
The world is a tapestry of diversity, and the Maca root is a fascinating example. This Peruvian Ginseng is found in the Andes mountains. Beloved for centuries as both traditional food and medicine.
Maca can boost libido and enhance sexual performance in both men and women.
Note: This content is only for informational and educational purposes and should not be considered therapy or any form of treatment. We cannot respond to personal requests for advice over the internet.
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Today's cheeky content was written by: Erin Alexander, Dr. Marcellues Hall, Mike Johnson
Editing by: Mike Johnson
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