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🍷 Flirt Like a Pro: Conversation Tips! (Oct 12)

🍷 Flirt Like a Pro: Conversation Tips! (Oct 12)

🍷 Flirt Like a Pro: Conversation Tips!

October 12, 2023

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Dear Feeling Seen,

Hi! I struggle with conversation starters/keeping a conversation going with a guy I just met and am interested in, due to nerves and being shyer when I first meet people (like talking to a guy at a bar or party). I eventually do open up, but it's never right away during the first interaction. How do I keep the convo going and work some flirty-ness into the conversation?

Your Friend,

Boulder City Connections

Dear Boulder Connections,

Finding the best path, requires clarity & comfort. Anxiety and fear attachments live in 1 out of 2 of us.

Comfort in your skin and comfort in your identity

Conversation Starters:

We all want 3 things:

Respect our feelings
We have a sense of competence
We have a sense that we’re likable

In other words, we all want our feelings considered (being rude is lacking one's feelings). To be perceived as competent and likable, too.

So at the up and coming holiday parties or your next happy hour keep the above in mind with your opening approach.

Keep the Convo Going:

Chillax... vibes skyrocket when you feel good and safe talking. People love to talk about themselves. Here's the TLDR theoretical science.

Spark notes:

Get the apple of your eye to talk about themself more. Here’s 10 active listening tips and a quiz!

Listen with your heart and respond with more curiosity.

The one you desire will soon feel actually valued, heard, and at ease with you. Keep going!

As your talks get deeper, his responses reveal his level of openness and connection.

Vulnerability is the pathway to erotic fulfillment

2. Notice anything exciting, that you both have in common? Other than talking about ourselves, we enjoy talking about things we like.

Use your common interests to cause a conversation awakening. Your two worlds may blossom to become one.

Keep your ears tuned in and gravitate towards each other, if liking what you hear.

Often we find the person we’re attracted to would still be attractive if they never opened their mouth! Let them talk, they may talk themselves out of some fun and saving you headaches.

Of course, if you fall flat on your face at the bar the distraction may be him helping you up off the floor! Use that “moment” to see if there’s attraction.

Everyone loves someone who can take the piss out of themselves! Now, this isn’t us saying to fall.. that would be your clumsy genes 😜

Exciting activities keep your heart strong

They also make for great conversation in a 1-on-1 setting. High energy gets your bonding hormones flowing. Pleasure is never far from this stimulating energy.

hopefully you get lucky & exchanged information?:

Take a hike together
Soar kites (so down, yes!)
Rent bikes and take a ride
Take a walk, [bold?] hold hands
Go kayaking, communication exercise

The deeper the conversation, the deeper the connection 🤔

If he is worthy of your presence, time and attention his lips will be moving your way. Give and take like the currents of the water.

When it comes to flirty-ness we have to be weary of being cringe! To avoid the cringe danger zone, the “flirty-ness” is like a glass of wine.

Too much and you’re overboard, too little and what’s the point! Tips:

No to Negging: We Uplift, Not Put Down - street dating gurus 😕
Proximity - get close, check your breath first!
Cheekiness is the act of being adult indecent, in a funny way
Maintain eye contact. It resonates as attention, interest, honesty and emotions
Use subtle body language to speak more than your words! Know when someone is giving you the 👀s and learn how to also give the 👀s

Things going awry? Pull back and re-evaluate. Apologize if it calls for that!

This so feels like following a recipe 🤓 let us know how it works!

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HERBAL REMEDY

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We credit this amino to desire. Also motivation and pursuit. Nurturing dopamine with this animo supports brain and nervous system health. This brings adrelinaline, studies show. Leading to more salacious sex. This is great to help explore new sensations and experiences.

Note: This content is only for informational and educational purposes and should not be considered therapy or any form of treatment. We cannot respond to personal requests for advice over the internet.

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Today's cheeky content was written by: Erin Alexander, Dr. Hall, Mike Johnson

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