Talking Politics, Religion & Money 🥴

Politics, religion and money conversations. Getting the eek, thinking about it?What do you do when you’re vibing on a date then this comes up?

Truth or Dare:

We dare you to create a set of values and principles for yourself. These help when uncertain about life and even in dating.

Partners in relationships work best when ⤵️ exist:

• Trust

• Humor

• Chemistry

• Commitment

• Communication

• Synchronization

Dear Feeling Seen,

Talking about politics and religion used to be a dating/social taboo, but now it has become the norm. With tradition norms declining.

Political views and religious persuasions often identify people's personal value systems. Do I or do I not engage? 

Your Friend in Need 🥴

Individual differences are an exciting opportunity to learn!

Learning deepens insight. It brings creativity to your perception of the world.

Differences aren't a cue to separate you to. Why separate if there isn't any drama.  

A great mind often used to say that differences divide us, but our similarities can unite us.

It’s true. Conversations around politics, religion and dating will bring up our differences. Yet don't bury the similarities that can unite us!

• We all want love

• We all want acceptance for who we are

• We all want to be in high regard

• We all want to feel a sense of community

• We all want respect

• We all want to feel seen

Strategies to develop an open mind:

Beginner’s mind - See things like it’s your first time.

Non-judging attitude - Be aware of how much you are judging when you think about who is judging you.

Acceptance - Be open to new information: Diversity = Opportunity

Patience - Take your time to understand the why behind what is -we all have our reasons.

Let go - If it doesn’t threaten your physical or mental health, ask yourself is it that serious.

Gratitude- Be thankful for any honest conversation someone is willing to have

The only thing constant in life is change. That and morning breath.

Don’t rush to make a decision today that may not matter tomorrow.

Studies show that diverse perspectives can have a negative affect on a relationship, it’s true.

Studies also shows that many relationships bounce back from differences, including politics.

Political and religious differences don’t have to end a relationship.

Finding common ground is of need. To have meaningful conversations that offer understanding.

This can be hard if you like the person, yet might be worth a try. Ask some questions that help you learn more about why a person holds certain beliefs.

You may not agree with the belief. That doesn’t mean you can’t respect personal values that ignites the flame.

Try these questions to better understand your partner’s beliefs:

• What does your point of view mean to you?

• What values or experiences guide your feelings and thoughts?

• How do you envision the future?

• What do you want or need to feel secure?

• tip: don’t have a disparaging energy when asking

Honesty is the best. Be upfront about your boundaries if you think lines are crossing.

Keep the energy high. Remember why you like you the person. Our political and religious views don’t always change who we are at ♥️.

Our beliefs are at times learned. We can unlearn too.

Here are some tips to help you navigate your situation a tad bit smoother:

• Reframe your thoughts and how you engage conversations

• Use words like “values” and “beliefs”

• Be upfront about your affiliations on profiles & know why they are

• Don’t assume differences mean incompatibility

• Use differences as a change to engage intellectual conversations

• Elevate your debate skills

FEELING SEEN’S HEALTH & WELLNESS TIP!

Hot Take: We ask questions out of order. Do look for sexual compatibility in who you feel is right for you. Get to know yours and their:

• Importance of sex

• Sexual novelty

• Jealousy levels or insecurity levels

• Cognitive flexibility associated with sexual matters

• Arousability and orgasmic capacity

• Sexual sophistication and/or experience

  
  We integrate sexual and mental well-being, inviting everyone to join the conversation. Share your story or questions by replying to this email.