You tired? of being in the middle 😵‍

..you up? You been having throbbing headaches? Some heavy pressure? It might be getting to you, sh!t it gets to us too.

If it is getting to you, like it does us at times. We gotta create some space. For peace.

Try the below, and practice. & more. & more. Practice. Storytime first.

See this in action, 

"Alright, let's talk about family dynamics. So, my sibling, right? Taylor. They're going through some changes. And by changes, I mean they're on a whole journey to switch up their gender. 

But here's the plot twist, they haven't dropped the bomb on mom and dad yet. 

Imagine keeping that secret at Thanksgiving dinner, right? 'Pass the mashed potatoes and oh, by the way, 

I'm changing genders.' Awkward silence, anyone? 

But seriously, shoutout to my sibling for being brave enough to be themselves, even if it means facing some uncomfortable family conversations. 

That takes guts. And honestly, if I were in their shoes, I'd probably need a whole lot of wine to get through that conversation. April's all about new beginnings, right? 

I told Taylor, of course. I love you. Can’t imagine what all you must be going through, I’m here for you. Pass the cabernet please.” 

Humor! It’s going down as one of the greatest ways to connect. 

Assuming your sibling is over the age of 18, it’s your sibling’s legal right to make changes they feel is best for their life. 

It might be possible you have access to this information because you were chosen by your sibling to be the person they trust and confide in. 

Do be honest and back away if it’s too much to bear. 

You can choose to not be involved if your role in the situation challenges your character or identity. Please know that’s okay too. 

When someone going through the transition process, it is understandably stressful for the transgender individual. 

On the other hand, not enough emphasis is placed on the stress and feelings experienced by family and friends. 

Everyone in the person’s life also has to adjust to the change. They must go through their own process. To come to. 

Here are some things that can keep families strong and united as they go through this journey: 

Step 1:  It is recommended that the person going through the physical changes be in a program that covers all of the mental health and medical supports, and maintain compliance. 

Step 2:  It is recommended that the transitioning individual be covered by insurance and willing to work at a job full-time to maintain insurance coverage throughout the process to avoid any financial stressors.

Step 3:  It is recommended that family/friends eventually participate in therapy to assist with the support system.

Step 4: Keep up with state, federal laws and policy changes.

Let’s go deeper into their world. Perhaps this information can help you better communicate with your sibling. 

That way they can have access to the quality support needed, and your conscience can be at ease. 

PEW Research Center does amazing work for the LGBTQ+ community.

We can only imagine this feeling is somewhat similar to what your sibling experienced. 

Imagine how hard this must be for them. You must be a hero in their eyes. 

You owe it to each other to be honest and find a solution that meets both of your needs. After all, family is forever. 

Here are some additional sources to help guide you in the right direction:

Supporting the Transgender People in Your Life

Highlighting Online Resources for Trans Communities and Allies

Reference 1 I Reference 2

You want to check out the practice? It’s a chill start. Repeat Min 3x 

Do this →  inhale, hold, exhale w each breath & flow:

• [inhale & think] - Positive Thought 

• [hold & feel] -  Positive Speech

• [exhale & see] - Positive Action

  
  
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Written by: Mike Johnson, Erin Alexander, Dr. Hall