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Is Vulnerability Overrated? (July 6)
Is Vulnerability Overrated⁉️
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Many people find it kind of tricky to be vulnerable. Do you?
We can’t blame those that do when you think about how society perceives vulnerability.
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Dear Feeling Seen,
I’m looking for more of how to be vulnerable with other people. What are ways to experience closeness in friendships and relationships.
From,
A Glass of Vulnerability Please 🥂
Vulnerability is a powerful resource that can heal childhood trauma, repair attachments, and revitalize your soul. However, if it is often given a less attractive feature, for example:
[The quality or state of being exposed to the possibility of being attacked or harmed, either physically or emotionally.]
No wonder people struggle to be vulnerable. bell hooks (American professor, author, and activist has a more empowering spin on vulnerability. She says,
“We cannot know love if we remain unable to surrender our attachment to power, if any feeling of vulnerability strikes terror in our hearts. Lovelessness torments.” Excerpt from All About Love: New Visions
MORE VULNERABILITY PLEASE!
Being vulnerable is not easy, things can go unexpectedly. On the other hand, being vulnerable can feel so DAMN good and liberating. At Feeling Seen, we add a Holistic element. We believe that vulnerability is a roadmap to a conscious and spiritual awakening.
Lisa Firestone, Ph.D, wrote an article on “How Embracing Vulnerability Strengthens Our Relationships” definitely worth checking out. She talks about five tips that can improve vulnerability and take our relationships to the next level.
Thus allowing us to embrace and enjoy the happiness we deserve. Out of all her tips, there is one piece of advice that towers amongst them all: “Slow down and be present.”
Happiness is found in the moment, each moment. We can start becoming more vulnerable by being present in the moment where happiness and joy is found.
Vulnerability is about being authentic, and it’s a human trait. You can be sure that people want to connect with YOU as much as you want to connect with them. You might be surprised how many people feel the same way you do.
LET’S GET VULNERABLE
Being vulnerable with others can be challenging, but it's also an important part of building strong relationships. When you're vulnerable, you're sharing your true self with someone else. Which can lead to greater intimacy and trust. A key to more fulfilling sex as well 😀
Being vulnerable can be scary, but it's also a rewarding experience. When you're willing to share your true self with others, you're building stronger relationships and creating a more authentic life for yourself.
Here are some juicy jewels on how to be more vulnerable from a professional lens. Continue reading and feel yourself become more vulnerable by the second:
Choose wisely! Not everyone is going to be able to handle your vulnerability. Choose someone you trust and who you know will be supportive.
Don’t be afraid to start small. It’s probably not the best idea to try to share everything all at once. Start by sharing small things, like your thoughts and feelings about a recent event.
Be honest and keep it real! When you're sharing your vulnerabilities, be honest about how you're feeling. Don't try to sugarcoat things or put on a brave face.
Be open to feedback. When you're vulnerable, you're opening yourself up to the possibility of being hurt. Be prepared to hear feedback that you don't like, but don't let that stop you from sharing your true self.
Be forgiving. We are all human, and everyone makes mistakes. If someone hurts you when you're being vulnerable, try to forgive them. Holding on to anger and resentment will only make it harder to be vulnerable in the future.
Practice mindfulness. Mindfulness is the practice of paying attention to the present moment without judgment. When you're mindful, you're more likely to be aware of your thoughts and feelings, which can make it easier to share them with others.
When you're sharing your feelings, use "I" statements to avoid blaming or judging others. For example, instead of saying "You always.." you could say "I feel detached when I become…"
Ease back and be patient. It takes time to build trust and intimacy. Don't expect to be able to be completely vulnerable with someone right away. Start small and gradually build up to sharing more about yourself.
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Note: This content is only for informational and educational purposes and should not be considered therapy or any form of treatment. We cannot respond to personal requests for advice over the internet.
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